Ever notice how the dollar bills say, “In God we trust.”? It seems a funny statement for our nation’s founders to make since they rarely trusted any form of government or market regulation. Trust is integral to two-way transactions, otherwise people don’t trust enough to engage interaction. However, people don’t recognize that trust is as ephemeral as the passing seasons. Things change, people change, and some even deceive themselves.
Why Empaths Don’t Trust Personally
If you’ve ever watched the show Medium, Allison the empath is always having dreams about people killing other people and their twisted plots to hide their actions. Unfortunately for her, they are true. Sometimes she dreams a dream several times because she needs to see it from various people’s perspectives to ultimately come to the objective truth of the matter because even people’s actions don’t tell the whole story. There are also occassions when people believe something about themselves and their actions, but later find out they’ve been manipulated or that they had a belief that was wrong and so they weren’t as trustworthy or genuine as they supposed, only naive or immature. In a situation like Allison’s where people’s souls are revealed and the entire drama becomes a giant puzzle piece that reflects various truths, sometimes contradictory, can you really trust any one person? For spiritual people, trust ends up being trust in the Divine that despite humanity’s many failings everything is still on target and fine. For empaths, they don’t trust, they know. Trust turns to faith. It no longer is personal because it can’t be personal.
With that insight comes peace. You wouldn’t be able to look into people’s souls if every time you did you recoiled at the peversity of human nature. You end up having faith that everyone is where they need to be and that only through Divine grace do we ultimately experience love, although for some it may take many, many, lives. You trust more than others, but it is quite impersonal. You aren’t trusting that someone won’t hurt you, or even intend to hurt you; you’ve given up on the childish notion that there are villains who wear only black and saints who wear only white. You are trusting that despite human frailties if we seek love even a villain in black can end up being a helpful friend as you begin to see the Self in other. Then, the notion of trust becomes meaningless and faith takes its place.
Love and Trust
The majority of people believe that there are trustworthy people and untrustworthy people, but that’s simply not true. A friend of mine recently dropped my acquaintence because I wouldn’t proclaim him trustworthy. I could have lied, but then that would have made me “untrustworthy” right? It was not that he is untrustworthy, it’s that I don’t believe it matters. I only have to trust myself that I can hold the tone of love and what he does or does not do is irrelevant. He is still loved whether he chooses to stay or go. I still remain the same.
The Need to Trust is Separation Mindset
The point is I don’t have to think of someone as trustworthy to engage them and still have a loving relationship. I just have to have faith and commit to seeing the relationship through despite the many obstacles. Unconditional love doesn’t demand that the other person be trustworthy, and it’s a pretty tall order to fill anyways. There are always times when we hurt others unintentionally. If I judge someone “trustworthy” and then they betray me by doing something I don’t like, will it make me feel justified to be angry instead of loving and walk away? Being proclaimed “trustworthy” comes with a whole set of expectations that mean little in the end if all it does is promote more hatred and separation in the world. If a person does not betray another, they will eventually betray themselves in one way or another. It happens constantly in actions as simple as making a New Year’s resolution and not being able to keep it. The key there is not judgment, but forgiveness. Those of us who understand others are no more than reflections of self will also step it up in advance, making the commitment to love knowing that this person will eventually disappoint and hurt us. Maybe it’s not fun, but it makes for a bigger, more loving, world. Otherwise, we could live our lives in complete misery wondering why we only attract “untrustworthy” people in our lives instead of just being thankful they were there in the first place, as mirrors for our own soul growth.